Do not follow impulsive behaviors. Generally, when a problem arises, we immediately want to solve it, without thinking much about what it is, what data exist and what is missing and why is missing, what are the restrictions and we even ignore what is asked or requested as a response .
When this happens we are faced with an impulsive behavior equal to that of the child who takes off a candy that wants to fight or immediately punish the person who has taken it away, without thinking about the action, but about the objectivity and resolution of problems requires subjectivity to internalize the possible solution or solutions if there are alternatives.
Do not think in only one direction. This limits achieving the goals of real, real solutions, because we go one way and each time we make mistakes we go back the same path that leads us to the same mistake. We got the same stones, the same thorns and we encountered the same obstacles. In other words, we repeat the steps we took previously and fall again. For this reason in recent times is being taught divergent thinking that is to use the mind in depth to reach the goals.
Plan strategies. If you work in a non-systematized way, that is, without a pre-established order, you try to solve the problem as quickly as possible, without reaching the goal because we are acting by trial and error, we try to see if we succeed, but we miss and return to rehearse to return to error. Planning is always good because of warned war does not die soldier, if he dies it is careless.
Do not place more restrictions on the problem. If this happens, it is very serious, because instead of the natural restrictions of the problem we multiply them by two (2) or by one fifty (1.50), which increases the unknowns, the enigmas and the questions, getting entangled in the skein structured by the problem itself, plus our own participation. For example, if we find three sides in the given situation, we place it in another side, it will be four and not three, so the solution moves away from us and goes away.
Define the nature of the problem we have to solve or pass. This is essential. If it is a personal or collective problem, what is its subject, what its dimensions are, what are its cardinal points, what data does it have, what is missing, what is the question, what is wanted with the response. If we notice that the problem has some difficulty and by not defining the nature of it, we reduce the possibility of a solution.
Resolve it from previous experience. We can not ignore the value of the past in comparison to analogous situations. Let us remember that there are nations where problems are solved by resorting to the precedent, to the habit and resolve as it was resolved in the past.
By doing this the other way around we realize that the thing is difficult and we give up.
Some Obstacles we have to Overcome
Humiliation: It is the action of humiliating another or humiliating oneself that is to say that it can be voluntary or imposed. The volunteer is used in religion and is not necessarily bad, because being penitential has the effects of catharsis that eliminates karma, and is a kind of calisthenics or warming to dominate the flesh, attacked by the world and the devil.
In contrast, the imposed is the act by which we feel offended in self-love, despised, reduced, and in these cases we feel that we are nobody, without any value, which triggers the pain, sadness and suffering.
There is a relationship of dominant and dominated, incubus and succubus, master and slave, however in this situation we can not discuss, hence the feelings of anger and indignation because we are subject. But when we can not make a problem or solve it and we feel exhausted, we must fight and start again in different ways in order not to fall into the same hole and make the same mistakes. We have to fill ourselves with courage and prudence so as not to do inappropriate things, to start the search in a logical way, resting calmly, asserting our knowledge, skills and abilities, and knowing that we are not useless, that we can solve all kinds of problems, and that defining the statement of the same, that is, the nature of what is stated, we are able to reach the goal and forget the humiliation that gave us the surrender. Persist, insist, persevere, persist, do not give the arm to twist, stay in your thirteen, which means being tenacious, stubborn, stubborn, stubborn until you reach the happy ending, as in fairy tales. Remember that constancy overcomes what happiness does not achieve.
Despair: It is the total loss of hope. It produces anger (anger), spite or anger. It is an annoying and intolerable situation that takes away our sleep, we take pain inside and we feel like insects of all kinds. The Franz Kapka beetle is a product of this feeling. We have a weight on us that does not allow us to scream or breathe, we feel drowned, insecure, confused and fearful. Because we could not handle the problem? Why do we have to give up? There is despair, time does not go, does not run, does not happen, a minute is very long, an hour is a day and a day is a week. The best we can do is to calm down and think clearly about the options we have to solve the problem. We will be back getting roads, roads, corridors, passages, because somehow, after the storm comes the calm. The surrender produces in some cases the despair, which, when disturbed, brings despair. Apply carefully the problem solving technique and hope will return, since this is the last lost, it was lost by the desperate attitude but we find ways and the problem will be solved.
The incredulity: In this situation there is the suspension or indetermination of the mood between two trials, or two decisions that we must take and tried to believe or not believe, but the unbeliever always goes for the second of these aspects and does not believe. There is skepticism, perplexity, suspicion, conjecture, objections and arguments, the opinions of others are questioned, there is difficulty of disgust in believing things and there is no repentance with natural things and therefore not having could solve the problem, it is believed blindly that it is true that we can not solve it and we surrender. They are seeing it with their eyes and underestimating overcoming, insisting, persevering, disbelief made us lose the courage to keep going, or restart again and again and we simply lost the battle and the war. We leave that like that until infinity. Unbelief is a measurement since the will and intelligence of the unbeliever are condemned to suffer and the logical consequence in the expression is: “we are lost”. That is, we are shipwrecked. This is where we have to react and trust in ourselves, in the creator, in our family and in our neighbor in order to draw strength from our own nature and understand that if we can, that if we are capable of being overseers and that we can resolve that and another problem. We accustom the heart to be soft of feelings, full of confidence and certainty, eliminating doubt and distrust for credulity and not being hard-hearted, because this attitude can bring us greater problems that if we are not going to solve them, they will bring us the fall at the bottom of the well.
Discouragement: Discouragement is the mother and father of all vices, when present there is no courage, attraction, or disposition. It is an insidious disease against which there are no vaccines or recipes, as it is a poison of the strongest and paralyzes the will of an entire people. Against all diseases there are recipes and ways to combat them, but it is very difficult to combat discouragement. It also brings a large and problematic danger that is contagious and full of pessimism to everyone who contracts it. The darkness is widespread and therefore light is scarce and if there is, it is tenuous and elusive. That is why we say that the mind is clouded and we are not left in the dark.
Discouragement surpasses all fiction such as comedies, dreams, fantasies, and leads people and peoples to annihilation. When there is euphoria, critical spirit and guilt, the solution of problems disappears completely and the solutions do not appear in the short or medium term, but far, far away, or we simply believe that there is no solution. We arrive at this moment to be imprisoned in our own dungeon and the self-esteem diminishes and the stagnation seizes of our body and of our mind by one of the most pernicious elements of the humanity: the discouragement. We have to go back to the origins in an urgent way, look for and search for the magic formula that helps us to get out of stagnation, impotence, weakness and weakness. Let’s do it with patience and imagination and touch the rock as Moses did and we will obtain the living water that is love wisdom.
However, we must fight and look for the desired situation, so we will be facing situations and resolving them according to the multiple methodologies achieved by humanity up to this moment.